I will appreciate if you could help publish my story so I can get answers from your readers.
I lost my virginity a few years back during my service year. Before then I had vowed to keep myself for my husband, but I had a boyfriend then who eventually forced himself on me. I wont actually call it rape, because I blame myself for putting myself in such situation. He knew how much I wanted to keep myself, he still took advantage of my weak moment. This is an action I will say I regret in my life, but I have no option than to move on with my life. I will like to state here that after that first time, no man has touched me.
Now the issue is that I will be getting married in two months time, but my husband to be (not the one who deflowered me) thinks I am a virgin. Please I do not want to be misunderstood, I have never told him anything about it, but I dont understand how or why he assumed I am. Anytime he talks about it, I just try to avoid the topic.
It has been difficult for me and I am confused about the situation, because I cant bring myself to telling him the truth. Do I just go ahead to tell him the truth, don’t tell him at all or tell him after our wedding?
Responses are needed urgently please.
…Please Your ADVICE is Needed Urgently….
Thanks.
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- Francis Graham, Zaki Tor and Senaida Lorejo Maghinay like this.
- Ingyaps Elkanah Abagir Bem Tell him now b4 d wedding else he discovers may be d consequence might b tomuch 4 u 2 bear.
- Ebz Miss-gotty Amore It is imperitive you tell your husband to be the truth. Waiting will just make things a whole lot worse. Be honest tell him everything that happened
- Dreylexylhard Hollhamhidheh Mustapha tell him d truth abt ya past so it wunt affect d future dats d mistake pple make.....
- Sarah Samuel Williams · Friends with Esiri DelekpeI'd rather u tell him now so dt he won't get mad @ u if u eventualli wait till after ur weddin or beta still,let sleepin dogs lie since u'r still a deflowered virgin cos since its been long(d sex tin)ur body mite go bk 2 normal..good luck
- Margaret Kisslip Plz all i can say is u tell him every thing he ll understand now than u keeping it till that tym plz do it quick.
- Nma Lawal Keep it to your self,telling him will bring another thing to ur home,u don't need to seek any advice after all u never sleep wt any other man since then,my sister keep it wt ur God,your hubby to is not a virgin,we need to forgive and forget past and continue wt future. Good luck
- Nduwka Josephine Tellin him or not, if 2ruly U̶̲̥̅̊ neva had it wiv sm1 else afta †ђξ 1st incidence Ūя̲̅ virginity wil stil bε̲ firm. So ignore tellin him
- Jessy Brewer Tell him d truth now cos if he finds out later it might be disastrous . It is better to be safe than sorry .. Gdluck
- Samuel Clarke Y tell him wen he has nt asked?! Until he ask, den he carez 2knw, otherwise shun d issue. He might even dnt care 2 knw
- Chijimakoma Larahover Ogbuka @nma,accordin to d gal ,she said that her hubby to be is assumin she's a virgin,so it will b beTter to clear herself instead of sufferin later afterall u won't b there to sUffer wiv her .
- Chijimakoma Larahover Ogbuka @moses,who knows the girl might be all these deeperlife gals,wiv virgin hair,long skirt,no make up n with that kind of appearance u will hardly suspect such people .
- Nma Lawal @ogbuka,if what she is saying its real,after she slept wt d guy no body touch her again,her virginal close back to normal as if she is a virgin again,unless she sleep around
- Olugbenga Awoku Don't tell him.since u neva told him u were a virgin.ur hubby to be only assumed u were due to d way u compuct urself,u're not d wayward type,&more so it was only dat 1st time,ur body wld av gone back 2 normal.
- Adekunle Oluwa Siant Temitope · Friends with Dreylexylhard Hollhamhidheh MustaphaTell him d truth,vignity is not everything.
- Olawale Omolaja Only GOD knows best but my advice is that she should kindly call her husband to be and explain herself. There's nothing new about not being virgin though some are still virgin but we don't need to judge anyone because everyone has his/her story. I will advice her to tell her husband and am sure he will understand except he didn't love her. Only GOD knows best
- Chijimakoma Larahover Ogbuka @Nma,the hymen is broken is broken, since d guy is assumin or sees her as a virgin she had better clear her self .
- Emmanuel A. Benson Telling him or not telling him, the fact's that you've been disvirgined already. You can't have it back. It's now left for you to decide 'cause this is a very personal, private issue that doesn't require public opinion. I believe for you and your fiance to be at the verge of tying the knot, you both must be relatively "matured" adults. So adults talk about such 'personal romantic' issues as the date and court... I must say i find it rather immature of the person who placed the request on the general public because we don't even have to know about your little romantic dilemma. Mr. Endy Edeson, please report news for us as you've always done. Don't start chipping in some of these puppy love stories...
- BjornJing Moreno Daza Be truthful, if he loves you for you the he will understand. But if virginity is all he cares about ? Then he doesn't deserves you. Have faith, love and respect for yourself. Good luck!!!
- Oyarinde Esther · Friends with Moses OreofeJesu Tofunmi4 som1 who is dignity n heaven concious in ds corrupt env hymen means alot.tel hm d truth f d matter.if he stay Gudluck if nt a better offer is likly 2 b on d way.4gvnes 4rm God mata most.n pls 4gv urself.tak care
- Agwuya Emeka jst tel him d truth, tel him how u lost it,becus if he knw d whl isu dt wil wst d situtn
- Sewuese Yaji I think u should let him know d truth b4 d wedn.since u knw there is an asmptn,mk it ryt now.trust is a foundatn dt mst neva b shakn in a rshp.he is goin 2 b uo husbnd,he dosnt nid 2 ask b4 u confide in him.if he realy luvs u,dis shdnt b an issue.
- Chijimakoma Larahover Ogbuka Oh gal, if u don't u will b like that lady on the pix posted n he will react that way, infact d pix says it all.
- Olatunde Ogunbadejo · Friends with Chijimakoma Larahover OgbukaIf u hav not @ anytime discus the issue of virginity with him, then y disturbing urself of telling him or not.... All u need to do is to tell him ur virginity status in ACTION bcos he was initially assuming, not sure, but if actually u told him b4, c just tell him oha! Sharp guy don reach there n scata the the place o, b4 una wed o........ Or make I ask u the guy na action man sharp guy?
- Olorunfemi Orlarhothymy Titus · Friends with Oogunyemi Holuwartaryo Emmy Horladeeplentylet him b aware f ur rong duin.
- Ruth Akhator · Friends with Cape Onen Cardy Sancheztel him every thing about it how u lost it i believed he will understand
- Excellent Khumalo Sean Stop keeping this to yourself, sit down with him and talk to him about the subject, and made him understand.
- Ranti Taiwo · Friends with Nma LawalTell him d truth now,if u don't u will face d consequences n ur husband wil not trust u again.
- Alake Bosede Odunayo Is better u tell him now b4 is too late, cos if u dont and he discover himslef after d weddin u wont av any say if he's nt faithful to u, cos u too was neva faithful to him.
- Clement Folademi Olabode It is never too late U can still let him know because for any man to assume such a lot of things are involved. If both of U are sincere on what U shared as tru love and which l blv d foundation is TRUST there won't be prblm but if he's marrying U just because of your Virginity that means dre is nofin like LOVE btw U guys. Resolve it now don't let be d foundation of problm in Ur marriage.
- Abdulsalam Khadijah Omowumi Abeg tell him as soon as possible, if he's urs, he will marry Ʊ, bt if Ʊ dnt, he mite use dat. Against Ʊ in marriage, he may. Nt hav trust in Ʊ lik he shuld, so abveg tell him now
- Adinuba Simeon Chibuzo Tell him everything, by so doing u will make ur burden lighter and move on. There's no better refuge in a human's life than innocence of conscience and peace of mind.
- Adepoju Victor My sister tell him the truth. And if he love u truly he will understand u bcs is not ur fault
- Tomisin Dorcas · Friends with Moses OreofeJesu TofunmiTell him,he may be angry at first but if he loves you,he'll 4give u.if u dont and he get 2 knw himself dats anoda thing entirely.
- Kingsley Torn-bari Gbaarabe in d 1st place, what'll warrant him to think dat u are a virgin? is he impotent? why won't he try & taste his food b4 marriage? i've got 21 questions 4 ur dunddy.
- Zaki Tor No Skeletons B/4 Marriage.
It's better 2 unveil The Truth,and You Shall Be Free Cos' All Of Us Have Our Short Comings.
Don't 4get That Marriage Is Not Meant The Perfect,But 4 Two Imperfect Couples coming 2getter to Compliment Each Other Weaknesses. - Onugwu Nnaemeka Martins · 2 mutual friendsI must say God is wit u. Many made d same mistake u made but did not repent. To me ur still a virgin but u av to tell him, I knw he wil aprciate u for who u are. Remain blessed
- Abdulsalam Khadijah Omowumi Abeg tell him as soon as possible, if he's urs, he will marry Ʊ, bt if Ʊ dnt, he mite use dat. Against Ʊ in marriage, he may. Nt hav trust in Ʊ lik he shuld, so abveg tell him now
- Francis Graham Y shd u brush off the issue anytime it comes up. I think u shd see it important to discuss it anytime it pops out. After all it's nt a crime
